The things kids do, we hope they out grow and all do it, even if their momma thinks her little darling would never do that.

Kid are a truly wonderful little packages that some people are blessed to receive in their lives.  Yes, each and everyone is a miracle from God.  I still don't, and never will, understand how some of the most compassionate people I knew, and don't know, who would never hurt a fly, would give anything to save a whale, a wolf, a forest or a anything but promote and advocate abortion.  Where are their minds, do they even know any children or why is it that after perpetrators of sex without thought get to murder children but wouldn't hurt a this or that?  I will never bring my mind around to it but have learned that all humans, from conception, have a choice to be saved once they reach the mental age of choice, so as all of the 53 million babies killed in the US since 1972 have already gone to their reward in heaven. Sadly due to a choice made for them, about them, a choice not made by that persons own parent, they only get to live in heaven.  Heaven being so much better maybe it was not a hardship in the end but it sure was a sin on this earth, and maybe just maybe it ate at the person, who did it, for all of time afterwards. I am sorry I got off track, didn't mean to, but I do find the death of any child so devastating and atrocious.  I am of the belief that if God blessed you with a child, for any reason and by any means, there is a purpose in your life or someones for that child.   I am done now.

Ever spend any time with a child?  I like how people who haven't say, they are the most innocent beings, which they are as they have no accountability for actions they are not yet aware are naughty, not that they didn't do it.  I love when people say they have to be taught to do things,  they don't lie, steal, abuse or be sneaky on their own.  Really?  The person or parent who thinks that isn't paying any attention to a little ones action, they are still having a fuzzy moment of their above normal conduct special little package.  Really just spend some time with the little beasties and you can watch them in action.  They will from the moment they can sit grab anything they want, they are the center of their world after all,  woe be it for the momma who never makes them share because they are expressing themselves.  She runs around getting all the children her little darling grabbed a toy from a different one as not to upset her little sweeties world.  She, or it could be dad maybe even the grands, just taught junior they can and do have to right to take anything they want from anyone they want.  Isn't the stealing.  So did it come to them by nature of nurture.  The taking probably from nature, the stealing from nurture.  How odd that that parent, a few years later says, I just can't understand who taught them to steal things, "they were playing with so and so kids last week I will bet they taught my little lovey to steal.  I know he didn't steal of his own accord."  yay right.   Ever ask a toddler if they took a cookie off the plate?  How about the remote could they have taken it, or maybe the cell?  They will assure you they didn't do it,  right, they don't want to give it back and Momma takes it if you say you have it.  'NO, I don't have that.'   Did they eat their veggies, "yes Momma I did"  so how is it you can see it under the rim of the bowl of the butter dish or behind the cereal box.  Out of sight is out of mind,  why do you think they like to play hide and go seek, you were gone and you came back.  Food goes away but doesn't come back if they can't see it.  Ever put two older infants together.  They pull hair, they pinch and prod each other, if an adult did that to you that would be abuse pure and simple.  They by nature will hurt anyone that lets them get ahold of them, not of intent but of selfish desires, if not shown it hurts other kids they will continue doing it and soon find it fun to see pain in others.  I know these are all innocent acts, of a baby or child, but really aren't they the seeds of the acts that could and do become unacceptable actions, if a parent isn't there to guide, teach or train them.  We parents do have a responsibility to help them become the kids and adults they should be.  No someone didn't teach your little one to do that, you did.

I find that with love most children out grow these things and become truly lovely preschoolers, tweens or teens but you have to stay with it and help them to learn how to respond to all the actions that come to them at the ages they come.  Do you really not teach the little guys that "yes, it does get big but that is private and you should keep that private for you, no you can't show it to your sister or Susie next door"   This and many other things will come along and as with the other things you encountered as they grew, and will encounter as they continue to grow, you need to address each in their own time and in context.  When they want to know where the puppy came from you have to listen to the question, are they asking about sex or is it that they only wanted to know that it came from the momma's belly.  Did they really ask how it got in there or did they just want to know how it got out.  Listen to your child, listening is one of the most wonderful senses we have, sadly so seldom used.

I find children do the darnedest things and with patience, love and appropriate discipline and guidance they can and do become wonderful adults.  I think it is sad when you see the ones that fell through the cracks.  It is normal, and a learning moment, when your three year old calls the puppy, he knows he is not to call over from the neighbors house and when momma catches him he says 'go home puppy' all innocent like.  That is a child's action, sadly the child that has no parenting, or maybe it is that they just don't grow up and become adults,  becomes the 38 year old that still calls the neighbors dog over to play in their yard and acts just like that three year old child that got caught doing it, when caught, and says 'go home puppy go home' still all innocent like.   Stealing and other childish actions that adults do are much the same, they never quite get that they are adults and they are not children, momma always let them do it. So why oh why should they have to be like other adults and conform to the laws of the land or maybe just society now?  Come on you know people that do all sorts of childish things, that as a child were childish as adults not so much....

Children are the most precious things we have in this life, all of us started as one, no, cloning has not gotten us past that yet.  We all start as unmolded lovely little sweeties, what we become is sometimes a crap shoot.  Did you have a parent the loved, you grounded you, put you in time out, spanked you or talked to you and really cared what your answers were?  If so you were among God's blessed, if not maybe you got a raw deal but that doesn't excuse your behavior and you don't get to say for the rest of your life it was some one elses fault, you are responsibly.   Sadly you didn't get a great childhood but you can make the choice to be a better person and maybe some day you can give to a special little person the love and joy that no one gave you, you can sort of get a redo and there is nothing more joyous than sharing a child's childhood.... tomorrow.